How To: Get out of a rut

I know I’m not the only one who feels stuck sometimes: like I’m not moving forward, stagnant… some days I just wake up feeling gross, fat, alone, etc etc like every other human being. The point is not that we all feel this way occasionally (although it’s true and doesn’t mean you have low self-esteem because you don’t always wake up like this), but that it’s possible to change your attitude and feel better.

The following is a list of things that make me feel better and ready to face the day. Any combination of these (or none of them) may work for you. Here we go:

  1. Get out of bed as soon as you wake up. I have a tendency to want to stay in bed all morning. Sometimes it’s fine. Sometimes it makes me feel gross. Get up as soon as you wake up, then make the bed immediately. This will make you feel better.
  2. Shower and shave. There’s something so calming about cleanliness. Shaving always makes me feel so clean!
  3. Go somewhere. Going out with friends is a way for me to feel a part of society and not alone. You never want to go, because it’s easier to stay at home and wallow, but make yourself and you won’t (probably) regret it!
  4. Go somewhere alone. Sometimes you just need to get out of the house. I recommend taking a book to a cafe.
  5. Get a good workout. Just one good workout will improve your spirits. I mean a good one, though–where you push yourself and really try!
  6. Try a new routine. Mix it up! Try a different perfume/lotion/shampoo. Don’t just do things you always do in a different order (although that would help too), try something new. Add a jog to your morning routine. Buy new foods. Eat something different for breakfast! On that note:
  7. Cook a meal. Even if it’s just for you, there’s something so rewarding about creating a beautiful and delicious meal from a few ingredients.
  8. Take a chance. Doesn’t matter what it is. Do something not just new, but that you would never do normally. Ask a guy on a date instead of waiting to be asked. Wear that dress you never thought you could pull off. Be daring, darling.
  9. Put the phone down. Take just an afternoon/evening to turn off your phone and enjoy no electronics. Really try to connect to the people around you.
  10. Smile. Find something to laugh about. Don’t have anything? Fake it. You’ll feel it soon enough.

My favorite quote when I’m feeling a bit depressed is something I saw on a tweet from Lea Michele. Her boyfriend died recently, so I found the advice especially meaningful:

Fullscreen capture 12282013 52917 PM.bmpThis is one of my favorite quotes. It hit me so hard, I wrote it on my mirror! There are a million things you can do to shake the bad feelings away. Find your own way of doing things and make yourself happy! ❤

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Letters to the Future

Letter to future spouse

I found this letter in one of my old journals from high school. I forgot all about it, but it was a letter I did during a church activity, just for fun. I have no recollection of what’s in the letter, but from the “to Hot Stuff,” I imagine it will be teenager gold one day.

If I remember correctly, the point is to open it after I get engaged to make sure that I’ve picked the right person, or something. It doesn’t make much sense because once you’re engaged, a letter you wrote yourself when you were like 15 is bound to contain a vastly different outlook on what kind of person you wanted to marry. I’m pretty sure my top requirement was good-looking and a sense of humor!

If only, if only, a sense of humor and good looks was enough.

Also, a thing that’s annoying, is that who knows when I’ll ever open that! I like more certain gratification, so when I started my most recent journal, I decided to write myself a letter not to be opened until I fill up every page. Since it’s like my 3rd or 4th journal, I have no doubt I’ll actually do it.

The reason I do it, is to fill the letter with things that are important to me, then see how much things have changed when I finally open it! Here’s what the letter contains:

  1. My list of Favorites (movies, books, TV shows, songs, moments, people, lessons, quotations, achievements)
  2. Important Questions & Feelings (unanswered questions, current predominant emotions, view on the world, what you enjoy about today, what are you thankful for)
  3. Goals & Aspirations (what you pursue, vision of your future life, what your looking forward to, hopes for future self, how do you want/expect to be different when you read this again)
  4. A Day in the Life… (how is everyday life, typical day at work/home/school, daily interactions, everyday habits)
  5. Highlights of the Year (what funny facts to remember, 10 best/worst things that happened, describe the year in one sentence, in one word)
  6. Advice to Myself (advice, most recent lesson you don’t want to forget)

It’s really a fun letter and I’m excited to see how much I’ve changed when I finally read it! I wrote it August 11, 2012. It’s already almost been a year and I don’t even think I’m halfway through my journal!

I encourage you to write yourself one of these letters and set a specific goal to yourself as when you can open it. Ideas:

  1. When you achieve your weightloss goal
  2. When you graduate middle/high school or college
  3. When you have your first child
  4. When you start your business…

The list goes on. Set a goal, then write a letter to yourself that you can read when you accomplish it! It’s a great motivation and reward.

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Not Motivated

My new goal: print out some signs that say this and put them places.

I feel like I’m constantly fighting being motivated.

IT’S A REALLY FRUSTRATING FIGHT, because I know what I want out of life, but some days I just don’t have the self control to achieve the little things that will lead to the big things.

For instance:

  • getting up at a reasonable time
  • doing my homework
  • going to class
  • paying attention in class
  • studying

…these are the biggest struggles and stresses in my life. I realize that the fact that these are stressful are because I let them become such.

But I’m tired of letting my inaction control my life.

So today, I’m giving myself 3.5 hours in the library to finish everything I can on my really long to-do list, then I’m going to continue to be productive. On my mirror at home, I’ve written myself a reminder to “recommit every day,” because every day is a choice to move forward and better ourselves. Every day is an opportunity to do something better than yesterday. You can quote me on that.

Okay, I should go focus now. That in itself will be an accomplishment, considering the people across and to the left who clearly misplaced their inside voices elsewhere–and the girl across from me with her headphones in that apparently doesn’t realize she’s humming out loud.

Wish me luck. And go be motivated.

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LOVE WEEK: Singles’ Awareness Day Party Perfection

sparkling cherry juice

Singles Awareness Day party ideas

If you’re like me and single for the first Valentine’s Day in 3 years, you definitely want to have a relaxed time for once. This week, I’m co-hosting one and attending another S. A. D. party (co-ed winkywinky), and I thought I’d share my ideas on how to throw the best Singles’ Party with you and your similarly single lady friends OF ALL TIME:

  1. Environment/Decor: Pick some awesome single playlists [herehere] and play that background music!
  2. Food: Lots of strawberries and chocolate and popcorn. Cute recipes here, here, and here.
  3. Activities: Chick-flicks of course! (He’s Just Not That Into You, Mona Lisa Smile, etc)
  4. Activities: Heart-attack someone you all know
  5. Activities: board games/party games (Never have I ever…, other icebreakers)
  6. Activities: photo-booths are super fun

MOSTLY, just try to have a good time! Be happy!! Instead of wasting time with a boy you probably won’t end up with–you could be creating lasting bonds with women-folk.

After the boys-and-girls singles’ party I go to this weekend, I’ll let you know what we did and how great it turned out to be. Being single can be so fun.

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Early New Years Resolutions

With only two weeks left until Christmas, it’s about time I started thinking about everything I’m going to do differently next year. Everyone knows the biggest problem with New Years Resolutions is that they always get put off, or never done at all.

That’s why when I thought of some ideas, I decided I was just going to start now.

New Year's Resolutions 2013

Some good advice I’ve come across for sticking to your resolutions is to make sub-goals for each goal & reward yourself when you reach each stepping stone–and also to make the goals with “what do I really want to achieve in life” in mind.

As someone who has never really sat down and thought out New Year’s resolutions, I decided I don’t want to mess this up. I’ve created a guide for sticking to your resolutions, gathered from various sources on the interwebs:

tips to keep new years resolutions

I’ll be sitting down tonight and mapping out my sub-goals and defining exactly when I’ll know I’ve accomplished one of these tasks. I can’t wait to get to work on these!

Merry Christmas & Happy Holidays!

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