Sometimes you have to say something

This post doesn’t particularly fit in well with the usual vibe of the site, but it fits in well with my personal beliefs.

Simply put:

Co-authors tried to publish a book, but the UT publishers cancelled it within days of publication because one of the authors (who is gay) wanted to put that he lives with his partner–saying that their projected LDS audience wouldn’t buy it with the word “partner” in bio section of the book.

This PDF explains it and has the attached emails that clearly show discrimination based on sexual preference. I’m very offended by the publishers’ remarks and how the situation was handled.

The publishers aren’t affiliated with the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, so this was not a “Church” decision. In fact, the church’s official statement on homosexuality, taken from MormonsAndGays.org, is:

The experience of same-sex attraction is a complex reality for many people. The attraction itself is not a sin, but acting on it is. Even though individuals do not choose to have such attractions, they do choose how to respond to them. With love and understanding, the Church reaches out to all God’s children, including our gay and lesbian brothers and sisters.

Whether or not you agree with the LDS standpoint on gays and marriage (or most churches, for that matter), the church does not support hate or bigotry towards anyone. As someone that lives in Utah, is LDS and supports the pursuit of happiness, I am disappointed in the ignorance that spawned this unfortunate situation.

I really recommend reading the PDF linked above, especially the emails. Warning: if you’re a human being with a soul, this might infuriate you.

Thanks for reading.

Why Doesn’t He Like Me?

Every single human being is guilty for wondering at some point or another why someone else isn’t romantically into them.

I am. Frequently. It’s the worst feeling–and we handle it differently: Some of us whine to our friends who tell us that “he doesn’t know what he’s missing,” or something similar–that it couldn’t possibly be our fault and we believe them, then go on exactly as before.

Some of us whine to wine bottles and convince ourselves that if we were only taller, thinner, tanner, prettier, etc–that then we’d finally be good enough for him.

We might be heartbroken that they didn’t return our love-at-first-date. Sometimes, we don’t even like the guy until we realize he doesn’t seem to like us either! What is wrong with us, ladies?

It’s got to be part of human nature, but unrequited love is the worst, most heart-sinking feeling in the world–I think it’s worse than being broken up with. Why? Because when you break up, it hurts like every expletive in the book; but, you usually don’t see that person as often, you don’t spend time with them, it doesn’t last as long, and you don’t have to pretend like you’re not seriously sad on the inside.

So what are we supposed to do? Try not to care. Be the best you that you can be in all areas of life (mental, physical, emotional, etc.). Develop yourself. If the guy you like doesn’t like you back, so what? There is someone that will–and we deserve someone that wants us!

Wise words:

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Not everyone is going to like you. Not everyone is going to like me. People will tell you all sorts of excuses to make you feel better, but maybe, *takes off sunglasses* he’s just not that into you. P.S. If you haven’t seen that movie, watch it.

As long as I like myself, it won’t matter and I can be happy with friendship! In case that isn’t satisfying enough, here are some reasons he might not like you:

  1. You have nothing in common. You’re more attracted to people who share your interests. If you love music and he hates music, it’s going to be annoying.
  2. You’re  not the type of girl he is attracted to physically (I like tall dark and handsome, and tend to find mountain-type men more attractive than those with boyish looks. Everyone has a type. If you’re not his type, it doesn’t mean you’re not attractive.)
  3. You don’t have the personality traits he’s looking for. Maybe he wants someone who wants to be a housewife and pop out kids. Maybe you want to be the next Hilary Clinton, so he doesn’t even bother because it’d probably be easier to find someone who wants what you want than dealing with a relationship where you want opposite things.
  4. You are smelly and live in your parents basement. Some guys might not mind, but some will. If it bothers you that much, try doing better with your personal hygiene and work towards getting your own apartment.

Don’t change yourself so someone will like you. Change yourself so you will like you and then people that are like you will also like you.

Other resources (terrible, R-Rated NSFW language–like seriously, seriously…I wouldn’t post except her points are straight on. You’ve been warned. It applies to men AND ladies):

So what now? They don’t like you, so you can hate them and be bitter, right? NO! Christopher Davidson says:

You should be nice to a girl (or people in general), just to be nice, not because you expect romance or sex in return. No one owes you anything. As for “nice [girls]”, stop going for [men] out of your league. Stop feeling sorry for yourself and work on your confidence. [Men] don’t like pushovers or [girls] who are too clingy. They like nice [girls] who are confident, strong, and are exciting.

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I Am She: (maybe one day!)

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I’ve decided that I need to keep a list of qualities I want in order to motivate me. So this is what I stare at when I’m at the gym, or debating on whether or not to go to the gym–when I think of skipping class, or giving up on my French.

This is the kind of woman I want to be, and I thought maybe you would appreciate some ideas for yourself–if you don’t really know what kind of person you’d like to be.

She is up-to-date on current events. I chose this trait because so many Americans (dare I say American women) are stereotyped (for good reason) as being completely egocentric and unaware of anyone’s problems but their own. We’re not the only ones on this planet, and ignorance about what’s happening in the world is a fear of mine.

She is conversational in multiple languages. I had a goal in high school to learn 7 languages by the time I was 30. It was a lofty goal, and now I’m just trying to go for conversational! Being able to communicate with as many people as possible is one of my dreams.

She makes connections. I want the hook-ups. I want to be the one that “knows a guy” that can help me get what I want.

She is discerning, witty, and relaxed. I’m fairly uptight at times. I know this because I was playing a game with friends and they had to choose which Winnie The Pooh character I was most like, and everyone chose the Rabbit! So I’m trying to work on that… also, being witty is such an attractive quality. Discernment means having good judgement, for those of you who may not know.

She has an opinion. People have different ideas on whether or not this is a good idea. For me, having an opinion means I’ve thought about situations or circumstances and found where I stand. This way, I can discuss with people and learn why I should strengthen, change, or defend my position–too often do we just float through with no ability to discuss important subjects. This is my anti-airhead weapon.

She says what she means. One of the most difficult qualities for me to understand in people (dare I say women) is that there is almost no complete honesty. It’s always truth wrapped in a little box, or presented in a subversive/manipulative way. I think so many miscommunications could be avoided by people saying what they actually mean to say, of course politely and with tact. Be clear.

She is independent and giving. I prefer to be a giver and not a taker, because it makes me feel better about myself. I would argue that all people thrive under independence and wilt under dependence.

She contributes to meaningful conversations. I don’t want to be the one at the table that giggles and twirls her hair while others discuss important topics. Even if I don’t understand, I try to learn by speaking up.

She is confident and direct. I find it so much more fulfilling to be in relationships (all kinds) where you can express ideas and thoughts directly, without worrying what people are going to say. On that note, don’t care what people are going to think if you tell them you think they’re attractive–or tell them that maybe people would respond better to kindness rather than rudeness. I’d want someone to tell me. It stings at first, but constructive comments and compliments are very rewarding.

She has control over her emotions and impulses. I’m still working on not crying every time I get mildly emotional, and not eating an entire bag of chips when I do. Self control is about delaying instant gratification for long-term rewards.

She travels. This one is important to me, because I want to see the world an experience what life is like all over the world, not just read it. I want to be up close and personal, because how else will I know how I can contribute?

She is unashamed to love herself. I am trying to get to the point where I don’t care what people think of how I look–and learn to think I’m beautiful no matter what. Who knows if I’ll ever overcome that struggle.

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Just Wondering…

As some or none of you may know, I’m a political science major with dreams of going to law school one day. I love doing what I’m currently doing on the blog, but I also want to branch out. If I were to branch out, I’d want to do a solely political segment, where I basically help people understand the issues on both sides–and politics in general.

Thoughts?

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Lipstick Diaries pt VI – Montage

I decided posting a new post for every…single…lipstick would be tedious and annoying, so instead–a video montage!! The only problem is I didn’t write which were which on the screen because they’re out of order and some of the clips are too short. SO, The Lipstick Montage Key:

Maybelline Vibrant Mandarin

Vibrant Mandarin – #885; VERY bright and gorgeous! Difficult to differentiate between this and Neon Red (below). Mostly they’re all this one. And if it’s not this one, buy this one anyway. I really don’t like the Neon Red.

Neon Red Maybelline Vivids

Neon Red – #890; Not my favorite red, appears the least in the vid. Buy the Vibrant Mandarin instead.

Vivid Rose Maybelline Vivids

Vivid Rose #875; My FAVORITE of all of them! Super velvety, this one is the obvious pink one in the video.

Pinkpop Maybelline Vivids

Pink Pop #860; Looks really good in video. Also see my post on it here.

Brazen Berry Maybelline Vivids

Brazen Berry – #905; really pretty – my favorite shots were mostly this one.

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Lipstick Diaries pt. V – Pink Pop

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Maybelline Pink Pop #860On my nails is Essie’s Play Date and on the lips is Maybelline’s Vivids collection #860 Pink Pop. I really like this one. This is the first of the Vivids collection that I bought, and whew–it is definitely bright! I really like it! I especially wish I had more places and outfits to wear with such a fun color.

August 1st is coming up soon, which is the day I release a new project I’ve been pouring my heart and soul into at work. And hopefully you will all partake. More on that later.

My two favorite songs right now (you’d know if you followed me on Twitter):

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Lipstick Diaries pt. IV – Coral-ish

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IMGP2703I bought 5 new shades of lipstick, all of the Maybelline Vivid collection. This particular shade is #870 – Shocking Coral. I really like it. It stays on well after you blot and rocks the intense/wow-factor really well. Makes me feel like a lady. But a wild lady.

It also made me feel like I needed to wear my hair up to really show it off right, but I rarely wear my hair up, so I thought I’d give it a go with leaving it down. My hair is my favorite prop. When it’s up, I feel like I don’t know what to do in photos.

The only thing I would comment about the lipstick is that it doesn’t look particularly coral-y. These photos were edited so it’s not quite that dark of a purple either, but the nail polish I’m wearing is Essie’s Peach Daiquiri, so you can tell it’s not all that close to a traditional coral.

Below is a photo that wasn’t edited so you can see the true color:

Maybelline Vivids Shocking Coral 870

I have a very exciting project I’m working on that I hope to be “unveiling” around the 1st of August, so keep your eyes peeled for that!

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Summertime at the Beach

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I went to California a couple weeks ago and got to go back to the beach where I used to spend most of my time when I lived there. I used to keep a big trunk in my car with all the books I wanted to read. I would just drive out to Santa Monica and sit in Palisades Park to read under the trees, or I would just go lay out in the sand!

Going back was weirdly less nostalgic than I thought it would be. I mean, of course a lot of memories came back, but I was more surprised at how I seemed to naturally fall back into the swing of things. Driving through traffic, going down the familiar roads was as if I had never left.

California is beautiful, and I really love it there, especially the variety you find with the people. For the most part, though, I was glad to be where I am now and moving toward my goals.

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It’s My Birthday

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…and I’m feeling 22! (Taylor Swift reference that I keep bringing up)

The past week has been crazy. I went to California/Disneyland, then to a friend’s enlistment into the National Guard, then to a concert with one of my very best friends! And chocolate! Lots of chocolate!

Some sweetheart left me a chocolate bar on my porch some point between 11-5 when no one was home. The high today was 98, so it’s safe to say that baby was chocolate syrup by the time I got it! It is resting comfortably in the freezer.

Can’t wait to enjoy that sucker later.

Happy Birthday to me!

I don’t have anything more substantial to say, but it IS my birthday!

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A Southern Food Night

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I don’t know how much I’ve talked about it on here, but I am proudly and loudly from the South. North Carolina, to be specific, and I am always grateful for the chance to celebrate where I was born and raised.

I am lucky to live by a few friends that are also from the South.

I suppose I should clarify: I’m from the South. They are from…the South. As in–I lived in the suburbs of the capital where people from everywhere came to participate in the growing technological advances in what they call the “Research Triangle.” They are from Mississippi.

Alas, my Mississipian friends were missing their Southern roots as much as I and had the brilliant idea to throw a Southern Food Night! The premise was basic: come, bring something Southern that we can all share.

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Of course, to Utahns, that sounds like “bring cornbread or coleslaw.” To me, it was an invitation into heaven! I went all out! I made hush puppies, pulled pork, corn bread, “Moonshine,” and of course cut up some strawberries and watermelon. It was a hit. In fact, it was such a hit that I didn’t get any pictures of the food before it was gone!

Anyway, just in case you’re thinking of a Southern Party, here’s what I did and the recipes I used:

Hush Puppies Recipe:

  • Oil to fill a pot
  • 1.5 cups cornmeal
  • 1/2 cup all-purpose flour
  • 1/2 teaspoon salt
  • 1 cup buttermilk
  • 1 beaten egg

Mix it all up and drop by the spoonful into a pot of oil. Flip them when the time comes (they’ll be brown–a dark gold at the lightest), then place on some paper towels to dry. All very simple. Eat with butter! This one was fun to make, because almost no one knew what hush puppies were!

North Carolina Style Pulled Pork Recipe (4-6lbs):

I don’t have a smoker, so I (don’t hate me for it) use my slow cooker. I’m telling you, it’s not the same, but it’s darn close!

The rub:

  • 2.5 teaspoons paprika (I used smoked)
  • 1.5 teaspoons brown sugar
  • 1/2 teaspoon garlic salt
  • 1/2 teaspoon black pepper
  • 1/2 teaspoon onion powder

Rub it on, then wrap it up and refrigerate overnight.

The sauce:

  • 1.5 cups apple cider vinegar
  • 1 cup water
  • 1/2 cup ketchup
  • 3 tablespoons brown sugar
  • 4 teaspoons salt
  • 3.25 teaspoons crushed red pepper flakes
  • 3/4 teaspoon black pepper
  • 3/4 teaspoon white pepper

Mix it up, then place the meat fat side up into the slow-cooker. Pour about 1/3 of the sauce over the meat. Cook on low for 7 hours. After that, pull the meat and pour on another 3rd of the sauce. Let cook on high for another half an hour. Transfer the meat with tongs into a serving dish, then pour as much sauce as you think it needs over the meat, then serve with my favorite sauces!

Southern Party Moonshine

To add another twist to a non-alcoholic event, I made some old-fashioned classic lemonade (this recipe) and labeled the jar “Moonshine!” Even though moonshine is clear, people still thought it was a cute touch.

That was the party! I really wish I had bothered to take any more pictures, but I was so caught up in everything that I didn’t get the chance! Next time I make these delicious southern foods, I’ll be sure to add the photos.

Have a great Southern Party! (Confederate flag optional)

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Blue & Bright

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New, new, new. Shirt and shorts from XXI and the clutch from Asos.

Things I can’t stop ________:

  1. Listening to: Justin Timberlake, Houdini by Foster The People, and Imagine Dragons (two links)
  2. Watching: Mad Men, this music video, and the PDS
  3. Reading: non-fiction, a fantastic genre most people don’t give enough credit, and this poem
  4. Dreaming about: California trip next month (DISNEY!), love, and allergy season ending
  5. Making: one cookie in the microwave (don’t knock it til you try it)

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New Things

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I got a new Galaxy S4, which is why it’s been so long since I’ve updated the blog. I haven’t been on a desktop/laptop computer in so long, because I have basically been drowning in my new phone. The above photo was taken on the front-facing camera! Such better quality than my old phone. I just love it! The hand controls (air guestures, etc.) are basically worth it alone!

Also, Mad Men–I just started watching it on Netflix and I honestly can’t stop! It’s so good, that I wonder why I haven’t been watching it all this time.

Also, also–I went on a mini-shopping spree yesterday! I spent way more than I should’ve, but I can’t wait to show off everything I bought. Tomorrow, I start up with the photos! Shopping is such a therapeutic activity for me…until I wake up the next day and remember how much I spent…sort of like a one-night-stand.

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Shellac Again

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Got shellac on my nails again. I haven’t had it in so long that I forgot how much better it looks than real polish (at least when I do my own nails). It’s shiny, and the best part is that it doesn’t chip. Chipping is so annoying, especially when you pay to get your nails done. So far, I’ve dropped a heavy ceramic dish on my nail, scraped it against a textured wall and they’re still perfect. I was even cutting a piece of paper and the scissors came down on my nail and not even a scratch. It’s amazing and so so so worth it.

The only thing I would recommend beforehand is to make sure you love the color. I usually get red or super light pink, a la Emily Maynard, but this time I decided to go a little wild. So far, so good! It’s been three days and I still love it.

We’ll see if I let them grow out, or if I decide I hate it.

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Twitter, Once Again:

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For some unknown reason, the closing at the end of my posts has been linking to my personal Twitter instead of my blog Twitter…I thought I fixed that MONTHS AGO, but apparently not.

  • The Twitter account that posts all the post updates is @LaceLollipops and is the official account for the blog.
  • The Twitter account that posts all the one liners, complaints and pictures of my food is @briterinb, which is my personal account.

Follow one, follow all! Just wanted to make it clear!

Like an Animal

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I usually don’t wear animal prints, because I attach this stigma to them that says “cheap,” and other things that just generally surround the opposite of “classy.”

I’ve decided, though…who cares? Go a little wild, go a little crazy.

Do the things that you want to do and just be free!

I say this because recently I did something adventurous and fun and then I felt guilty for it…even though I didn’t do a single thing worth feeling guilty over. I realized that my childhood/teenage restrictions of “NOT ALLOWED” still grip me sometimes. And that made me mad!

I really wish I didn’t let the fear of “not allowed” (whether by society, or personal inhibitions) keep me from doing all the fun stuff I could be doing. So I’ve vowed to change that, because we simply just don’t know how much time we have left–and I’m tired of being so careful! Even when I did my one adventurous act of packing everything I own in the back of my car and moving to California by myself…I still was so careful. I just need to relax and enjoy life, and worry less.

Raise A Glass To What Your Future Holds

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